Mental Health Notes

Goin’ To The Chapel: Managing The Stress Of Unwanted Wedding Arrivals

by Alicia Sparks, Mental Health Notes on April 18th, 2008

Unless you have a super fantastic relationship with your soon-to-be husband’s ex-fiancee, the thought of having her at the wedding probably stresses you out a lot a bit.

They were together for five years. His parents adored her. They were even engaged to be married!

Yep, that kind of wedding guest could make even the most collected of brides feel anxious.

Fortunately, in today’s installment of Goin’ to the Chapel, Molly McDonald offers some tips on how to manage the stress of those unwanted wedding arrivals.

5 Tips to Manage the Stress of an Unwanted Wedding Guest

Many brides and grooms have that “friend” of their significant other’s he or she prays gets sick the weekend of the wedding so they won’t show up. It’s okay, there are plenty of ways to prevent your stress from becoming a tragedy:

1. Use your busyness as an out! Simply excuse yourself for the next big thing.
2. Make use of your bridesmaids. They are there to help you, right? Ask them to come get you for something if you look stuck, or have them start a conversation so you can politely excuse yourself. These girls are your best friends; they’ll know when you’re struggling.
3. Rely on your adrenaline. You will be so happy about your marriage, you will be nice regardless!
4. Hope for some consideration. You are going to have so much to do and so many people to talk to, half the time your “unwanted guest” will see this and not bother you since you guys aren’t that close anyway.
5. Remember: It’s YOUR day, and only YOU can let someone ruin it.

We’ll wrap up the Goin’ to the Chapel series tomorrow with tips on how to determine the proper etiquette for your wedding.

Molly McDonald is a freelance designer helping people get patents on their concepts while also patenting her own. Medical products are her personal favorites because she finds them most rewarding. Molly graduated with a Bachelor’s of Industrial Design with a minor in business and, when she’s not designing and patenting, she’s enjoying photography and studio art! For more, visit Molly McDonald Design.

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